I have read some lurid headlines in the past and this one has to be one of the best –
Sex addiction was the main issue in six per cent of presentations – an issue that affected less than half a per cent of clients in 2009.
Oh do fuck off! Sex "addiction" has been around before man even evolved from the ape. In fact man never would have evolved in the first place as the apes would have been disinterested in reproducing.
The male [and I include most species here] has three basic instincts – food, self preservation and sex. Without any one of those, the species would die out. But then along come the Puritans and thinking about sex is decreed to be "an addiction". The reason for the dramatic increase is because you have ony just invented it. Like second hand smoke, it wasn't a problem until you lot made it into one.
I suppose it was only a matter of time before the Puritans got around to sex. Like alcohol, sugar and tobacco it is pleasurable, and we really can't have that now, can we? The Great Unwashed must not enjoy themselves, so something must be done. They have found a way of making whoopee so it must be stopped, banned or outlawed.
“It’s a game-changer.. With the internet you can find a sex partner within 15 minutes – as quickly as you can find a take-away,” Ms Ruigrok said.
Damn! I don't know where you live, Ms Ruigrok but I wish I could find a take-away within 15 minutes. And strange as it may seem, if I type in "King Prawn Vindaloo" I don't get that many requests for sex in the results. Maybe you're typing in the wrong criteria? So maybe if I typed in "King Prawn huge tits gagging for it Vindaloo" I might get different results but I doubt I'd want to eat it.
Sex addiction was not simply about a person having a lot of sex or partners, but about how their thinking about and having sex impacted on their functioning, self-care, relationships and mental well-being.
Ah! So I don't have to search the Interweb for randy housewives in the locality? That's a relief [if you’ll pardon the expression]. The problem is not sex itself, but thinking about it? Seeing as men are supposed to think about sex every six seconds I can understand your concern, though speaking for myself I would say that once an hour is nearer the mark, but then I'm getting old.
Listen Lads. Sex is not an addiction. Just because people think about it a lot does not mean they are addicted. Next you'll be saying that breathing air is an addiction because everyone does it and people tend to get a little upset if they can't get any air. You people see everything in terms of a "clinical diagnosis" whether it's a badly behaved kid who has "ADHD" or thinking about sex being an addiction.
“There is intense self loathing involved, huge shame… At its core you see disordered attachment, chasing an intimate connection.”
There is only one reason there might be self loathing and shame, and that's because you labeled it as a "problem" and an "addiction". Before that it was just part of life. Some people are randier than others but I bet there are very few men who haven't drooled over a nice spot of cleavage?
To all those who think they have an "addiction" there is a very simple solution..
to hand, as it were….
Just get a grip!