New Year Resolutions and all that

It's New Year Resolution time again.


For some reason that escapes me, people feel compelled to "improve" themselves by resolving to do something [or to stop doing something] in order to conform with other people's ideas of a better lifestyle.

This is the time when "they" [whoever they are] start hectoring us to loose weight, or give up smoking or give up drinking or to exercise more or to in some way torture ourselves into doing something we don't particularly want to do.  But if we don't want to do it, then why should we?  Why is there this compulsion to change our lifestyle to something we are obviously not comfortable with?

What brings this little brainfart on, you ask?

Well, I happened to notice an article this morning –

Sick of making New Year’s Resolutions? Let Paul O’Connell refocus you.

A couple of things struck me about that headline.  The first is that if you are sick of making New Year's Resolutions then don't fucking make them.  It really is that simple.  If you don't want to do it then why on God's earth should you?  Are you that lacking in self confidence that you allow others to order you about and tell you how you should be living your life?

The second thing is that I haven't a fucking clue who Paul O'Connell is.  I gather he is a rugby player or something but I had never heard of him, so why the fuck should I take any advice from him?  I'd be as well off taking advice from a stranger at a bus stop.

On Friday, people are going to make all sorts of resolutions.  They are going to give up the evil substance du jour and suffer for a few days or weeks before lapsing back into their old habits.  So now they not only have that habit [that others have told them is evil] but they now have a sense of failure on top of it.  If they really in their heart of hearts believe the habit is so bad then why didn't they address it before?  If they feel they want to improve their lives then why haven't they already changed?

It baffles me how people are so easily conned into doing something they really are not comfortable with.  If the idea of joining a gym appalls you then don't fucking join one.  If you enjoy your smoke or your pint then why on earth should you give up on someone else's say so?  If you are happy slobbing it out on the couch then just carry on.  It's your life, not theirs.

I made a resolution back in the sixties [or maybe the early seventies].  I'm happy to say that I stuck to that resolution and have never broken it.  My feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment is immense.  It has made me a better person.

I resolved to give up making resolutions.

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New Year Resolutions and all that — 6 Comments

  1. A resolution can be defined as 'the action of solving a problem or contentious matter.' The biggest contentious matter for me in the last twelve months is that I have not made half enough time to get down to the boozer, particularly during the week. So for 2016, I am going to make a supreme effort to resolve that. You see, it's all in having the right resolution and sticking to it.

    • When I have business to discuss I sometimes order coffee at my local. In early December a free mince pie was served along with the coffee.

  2. On this subject, as indeed on many others, we seem to be singing from the same hymn sheet, GD.

    I've always regarded this whole 'New Year's Resolutions' malarkey as a pointless exercise. Apart from when I was a child and knew no better, I have never made any 'Resolutions' for New Year.

    I don't need excuses to make decisions about my life. If I decide to do (or not do) something, then I get on with it. The time of year doesn't come into the equation in any way, shape or form.

  3. To be honest about it, I've never been one to make New Year's resolutions therefor I've always been able to keep them–meaning the ones I don't make. In fact, I usually have to be reminded that the next day (week, month) is a New Year–by my bank for the most part for dating checks for the wrong year.

    Of course, I could make a resolution not to date my checks incorrectly after December 31st but…wait…is it the New Year yet?


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