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Bad Friday — 44 Comments

    • My mother chose not to go back to hospital also, as would I. I’m so sorry to hear things progressed, one day at a time. I wish I’d found your blog sooner.

  1. Despite reasonable NHS care and excellent hospice care my Mother In Law chose not to go back into hospital/hospice care towards the end. We never discussed the reasons but I inferred she was tired of being ‘messed about’. A matter of rescuing what dignity she could.

  2. I don’t post very often here but I’m so very sorry to hear this – what a buggeration…

    You’re a very brave man.

  3. If it should ever happen to me I can only hope that I am half as brave as you are, God Bless.

  4. I think you’ve made the right decision to stay out of hospital now. Enough’s enough. Good luck and love!.

  5. My commiserations to you and your family Grandad. If it helps, my father was told that his cancer was terminal in 1972, and that he had six months to live. He lasted until 1977, and had a reasonable quality of life for most of that time.

    Spend time with the ones you love, make memories, and make sure they know how you feel about them. You will always live on through the lives that you have touched, even to some small extent, all of us here.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNJQw5GVOzM

    best wishes,

    Ian

  6. Mere words from your loyal band of followers are nothing but control what you can of your destiny and don’t let them take away your freedom of choice and wishes, but keep annoying these’ll out of those who think they know you better than you do.

  7. I don’t blame you about the hospital. There comes a time when it’s the right call to say enough is enough. You’ve touched the lives of all your readers. May God be with you.

  8. Awww heck.
    Nothing at all that I can say, except ‘Bugger’.
    Enjoy, as far as you can, what you have left. Do tell those you love how much you love them.
    And don’t waste a second on pleasing nobodies like us.

    We understand.
    And may God’s mercy have you smiling and pain free.

  9. A late friend had a similar diagnosis last November, to which my single-word response was, indeed, Bugger! My imagination doesn’t extend any further today. Sorry.

  10. Dad,
    You are a dear. You have done good things. You have brought me joy and also to others.

    Prayers for your pain to lessen. Prayers for your situation and for your family. I pray your PCN continues to treat you with kindness and dignity. Whether you are well or ill you deserve that.

    Your friend ,
    Toodles

  11. Thank you for the laughter and wisdom over the years. I wish you a peaceful and painless goodbye.

  12. Sorry to hear this news Grandad. I’m sure the help and support from your family will be greatly appreciated. It is a tough time for you all. Thinking of you and the years of Grandad posts that bought a smile to us.

  13. Grandad, I went through all this with my wife who died of dementia two years ago. I totally understand how unpleasant it is. I found it profoundly depressing and it wasn’t even me they were all talking about. I truly admire your courage.

  14. Just one of the many people who looked forward to reading about your life, Herself, and Penny, and sometimes imagined how a face to face conversation would go. That is never going to happen, especially now, and all I can say, apart from “Bugger”, is thank you for the years of your philosophy, courage, and reflections of your village life.

  15. Bugger! Life isn’t fair, but that wasn’t ever a part of the design. I’m at a loss for words.

  16. I admire your bravery .Please makes sure you get all the painkillers you need.
    Good luck

  17. I can only wish you well, for however long the term applies. And hope that the NHS does a better job in your case than they have in others.

  18. I’ve discussed “end of life” at length with my 94 year old mother and in the context of my dad who passed away aged 86. We agree that it is important to believe that you have led a good life in terms of whatever that means to you, not others. My dad had a life that he could be proud of in terms of his profession and especially the five children he brought up. He travelled widely and experienced much. His wake was very much a celebration of a life well lived. Even our greatly loved and missed daughter-in-law, Alannah, who cruelly died of bowel cancer at just 38 with a daughter just shy of 6 years old, had led a full life that touched so many people. There were many people who listened to her service outside of the chapel because it was full, and many others listened to the live stream from all over the world. Their lives truly live on in the hearts of those who loved them and whose lives they touched.

    My wish for you, Grandad, is that, whatever the future holds, you have the comfort of having had a life well lived and the knowledge that many people will mourn your passing and cherish your memory. We shall all shuffle off this mortal coil, and none of us can ask for more than that when the end comes.

    If your farewell is to be live streamed, as many are these days, you might like to consider sharing that moment with those who have loyally and affectionately followed your blog over the years.

    All the very best, Paul

  19. After a day to consider your message, my original comment of double bugger still applies.
    However, about 15 years ago both my twp best mates succumbed to similar conditions. One opted quite early for hospice care, where I visited him daily.
    I was staggered by the whole atmosphere and quality of care, not only for him but also his friends and relatives. A million miles from any ‘hospital’, it was filled with care, compassion and love. In addition, their skill at providing palliative pain-relief by various means was exemplary.
    In short, if you have such a service nearby, please don’t dismiss it, you may all benefit through a very difficult time.
    Thoughts are with you all.

  20. Oh shit…

    You’ve put up such a great fight, but the bell’s still there to ring, so take the hours as they come, as they’re still yours!

    Thinking of you Grandad, wishing still that we could have met!

  21. Very sorry to learn of this Richard, but not that surprised. I was reading back on your ramblings and fell across the one from 29th March last year “Yet another mRNA conspiracy”. At least with the palliative you might get decent pain control. And I think you wise to stay out of hospital – it’s full of sick people, and you don’t want that. But when you do die (and hopefully not so soon), please bring my best wishes to the Raccoon and ask her to have a pint ready for me too 😉

  22. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your spirit and your love of all that is important and that we all need in our lives. You are and always be a beacon of hope and understanding of all that should be important in our lives. God will bless you and comfort you.
    John

  23. That’s bad news. I wish you the best of what’s possible. Don’t be too dogmatic about the hospital. One of my late wife’s last comments while on palliative care (effectively, lots of morphine) was that she could “see why Keith Richards loves this stuff – I know I am dying but I’m really happy.” Get the good stuff and enjoy what you can. All our stories must end. If yours was a good one you win.

  24. Very bad news and difficult to know what else to say, you have coped with it in such an inspiring way. All the very best, let us hope for that.

  25. You are in my thoughts at this sad time Grandad. Thank you very much for your erudition over the years. Best wishes for whatever comes.

  26. I’m sure you know how I feel about your situation because I’m sure I can’t put it into words.

  27. I haven’t been around the blogs much lately so only just heard about this!

    Terrible news indeed. Here’s hoping for a miraculous recovery.

  28. Words are inadequate. You will be missed. Enjoy the time you have left with your loved ones. If you should scribble a few more lines we will read them, but we understand if you don’t.

  29. Your ramblings, opinions, challenges, achievements, technical frustrations, coffee shop visits and more have been a source of inspiration, enjoyment, hope and entertainment for me since I started reading your blog probably near the very beginning back in the early days of blogging in Ireland when it was actually cool. This is the kick in the ass that I needed to send you an Email and get that thing that we discussed lat late year moving. I’m very sorry I haven’t done it before now. To all of your family, you are in my thought’s and if there is ever anything you need that I can help with, just say the word.

  30. Ah, Bugger. I heard of issues on OOL and I land on this. Not good news. You have my sympathy.
    Sadly I can concur with your thoughts on hospitals. The past two years, with the treatment of loved ones and myself, I’m of the same opinion. Avoid at all costs.
    In the most euphemistic way, can I express the wish that the “transition” for want of a better word is smooth and painless.

    If you are not in contact with them, I can thoroughly recommend MacMillan and their nurses to help you. When they say jump, the NHS wankers do in fact jump.
    Always good to have a professional on your side and they can advocate on your behalf especially when you’re not up to the job.

    Thank you for all your past musings and opinions. You have been right on the money on many topics.

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